Noone Told Me About The Terrible Ones!
Thursday, October 23, 2008 Posted by Jolly Mom
I thought kids went through the "terrible two and threes"...not "terrible ones"! Lucas has a bad case! He has been having temper tantrums AND he only wants to be with me. If my husband, Lucas, and I are in a room and I leave; he runs to follow me and cries hysterically. When I don't pick him up (because I have to use the bathroom or something equally urgent or private), he throws himself on the floor and cries "MMMMMAAAAAAAAAAAMMMMMMMMMAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!" He literally says it like that...like the sky is falling! Half the time, if I do pick him up, he still throws himself on the ground and cries for me. It's like he doesn't actually want me to pick him up. He just wants me to stay in the room. So, to all you mamas in the know, how do I make this stop and when does it end? I need help before my bladder bursts or I lose my sanity-LOL!
October 23, 2008 12:22 AM
I've been there! Honestly, read "The Happiest Toddler on the Block". Saved my sanity.
October 23, 2008 2:41 AM
Thanks for the advice Michelle...I just reserved the book from the library. I will pick it up tomorrow. Thanks again!
October 23, 2008 11:28 AM
LOL. No advice. My kids are in the bathroom with me. I can hold two kids and pee at the same time. :wink: Oh - and my nephew is Lucas.
October 23, 2008 12:09 PM
How do you make it stop and when does it end?
I honestly don't know because I am still in the thick of it. This started when she turned 1 and she is now 20 months and some things have changed but new behaviors have popped up also. I always say I don't care what anyone says THIS is the hardest age. There is just so much they don't understand and you can't reason with them. I've gotten through the first couple of chapters of happiest toddler on the block and nothing I've tried has worked, but I probably need to read the whole thing. :-)
October 23, 2008 5:21 PM
Funny that you posted this today...Just a second ago Graham was gripping me around the leg with his legs and arms like a monkey while I was trying to go! Although, his tantrums are ususally for not getting something and when he starts throwing himself on the floor for that reason we tell him that it is not nice and put him in his crib until he stops crying..which usually only takes about 3 minutes! It has helped!
October 23, 2008 10:29 PM
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October 24, 2008 8:22 AM
This was also Kenyon's worst age it went on through 2 and a little into 3 (sorry for the bad news). He would pitch these tantrums that would go on for 15 - 20 minutes or sometimes more. No amount of time outs, ignoring him, indulging him, or any other method I tried seemed to make them stop. The good news is now he is 4 and one of the most well behaved children I know. We still have our moments, but they are few and far between. I guess he got it all out of his system already. LOL
October 24, 2008 9:56 AM
I've decided there will always be issues, no matter what their age. I found that three was much harder than two. Four has been better, but I just blogged about issues I've been having lately. Five comes next month, so we'll see how that goes.
October 24, 2008 10:11 AM
Oh I remember the control issues. Regan was a master of those. She would literally cry for hours while we would try and wait it out. I think Dr John Rosemunds book "The strong willed child" was my favorite.
October 24, 2008 11:15 AM
Just wait for the terrible tens...once hormones get involved, it's a whole new ballgame.
October 24, 2008 2:45 PM
It's true, terrible one's. We're going through that here with the "Little Man". He just wants to be with me at all times.
You just have to give the kid some love & attention but let him know that you're near by and that he's safe. I think what you're experiencing is part of separation anxiety.
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October 24, 2008 11:07 PM
They get so frustrated when they don't have the words to be able to express their feelings. It gets better as their ability to communicate improves. Signing works well for me. I have a 3 year old and a 1 year old so, I'm right there with you!
October 24, 2008 11:29 PM
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October 25, 2008 7:29 PM
I wish I had advice for you. Now that mine are 8 and 14 it is over. Isn't that terrible. I am not poking fun of this. I can remember sitting and crying at the end of the day sometimes. The nerves can only take so much. Some say just walk away. I tried that but could not take the pain that I "thought" I was causing by leaving them in the middle of a fit.
October 26, 2008 12:33 AM
Have you ever heard of "separation anxiety"? It's been so long since my kids are now 17 and 16..I'm sorry I can't recommend anything...my dd had it the worst, but "it's just a phase" and she eventually grew out of it, so hang in there!
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October 27, 2008 11:05 AM
My girls are 7 and 4 and have passed through that stage and the only advice I can give you is...wait it out. This too shall pass! Except then we got a puppy who followed me everywhere, even nosing open the bathroom door. When will we ever get any peace?!